Be forewarned – this is perhaps more of a rant, yet I think it touches on realizing that when we approach our Heavenly Father, His great big Heart of hearts is always open to whatever we may need. What comes to mind is His attitude toward us reflected in John 16:20-24 – “Verily, verily, I say unto you, that ye shall weep and lament, but the world shall rejoice: and ye shall be sorrowful,but your sorrow shall be turned into joy. Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.”
The question is, are we reflecting that godly image and likeness in which we were created, as we interact with others day to day? Here’s what I’m getting at.
Have you noticed? It seems so very, very difficult for people generally to simply say, “What is it I can do for you?” I see this across the board in just about all relationships! Husbands to wives, wives to husbands, kids to parents, parents to kids, employers to employees, employees to employers… You name it. It seems so difficult for people to let go of themselves long enough to do that! It’s scary. It goes against our “natural” programming. Sure, there’s some risk. The other person may not actually want anything – except maybe to either take a raincheck on the offer, or just to be left alone, or not want anything.
Wow! Imagine that!
Why is it that everyone seems to think they know what’s best for everyone else without asking what it is that the “other” may really need?
This is especially evident at the moment in respect to the government attitude toward We The People. These people like to play god, but are ungodly in attitude. Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a hang whether you’re a Republican, Democrat, or whatever. Enough of these tantrums and digging in of heals and refusing to budge!
What we’ve got is a whole lot of people who have gotten together to disagree on what they think is best for everybody else. And NOBODY is asking the magic question, especially the politicians asking it HUMBLY of the people for whom they work [they seem to have forgotten that!], “What is it I can do for you?”
Certainly President Kennedy had the right idea when he said, “Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country.” I don’t think he was just bringing that directive to We The People. He meant the politicians too.
I think people who hated that idea took him down, because what would happen, if they started asking the magic question, with no view toward, the what’s in it for me attitude, is that they’d lose control and have to actually give instead of get. They’d have to let go and participate instead of just hanging on and gaining personal benefit and interests.
As far as I’m concerned, this hits the nail on the head. There’s too much self interest, too much personal interest, too much ego in all of it – in every level of relationship. There’s way too much “mandating” of what some people seem to want to shove down the throats of the rest of us, and have decided what’s best for us.
That’s what it means to lose your “rights”. Nobody gives a hang about what makes you tick. It’s all about the people singing in the key of “me”!
So if we’re going to start a grass roots movement, let’s start on the home front and within every relationship on any level in our lives. Maybe we could all take just a little gamble on something, asking what we can do for someone else, instead of looking after our own selfish interests. What if “our” big ugly out-of-control government is just one big mirror of our own attitudes?
What we put out is what we get back. That’s a metaphysical truth! And what we’ve been putting out is essentially this: ‘What’s in it for me? What can I get from you? And I’m sure not going to ask what you’d like, because that might interfere with what I want, or what I think is best for you. I can’t help you now; I’m doing lunch. That’s what’s important, not what you need.” It’s about control, not about letting go.
News flash: “Father Knows Best” was a TV show that aired in the 50’s. It was cute; it was funny; everyone knew it was just a show. But now we’ve got this combined parasitic, vampire like, paternalistic nanny state on our hands wherein too many fingers are in the control pie. And it’s not funny; it’s not just a show. This is real, and “father” does not know best, because he’s not asking; he’s dictating.
So what’s the big deal? What’s so painful about asking, “What is it I can do for you?” [Certainly if the reply is something morally reprehensible to the asker, one would back off]. But we’re talking here on the point of, let’s say, ordinary needs. Maybe if we did that and took care of business, and became our brother’s keeper, instead of assigning it by default to the government, things would begin to straighten themselves out as a result.
Probably we’d all faint first, if anyone asked us what they could do for us, what it is we would really like. We’ve become so numbed down into other people deciding what’s good for us that many of us may not even be able to answer that question anymore, because we’ve given away so much of our sense of who we are as the sons and daughters of God created in His Image and Likeness, that we no longer can even connect with what we want, and in some cases need. So we settle for someone else telling us what’s good for us, and blindly complying with it.
Even people who are no longer in touch with what they most want or need are put in positions of deciding what’s best for someone else. This is ludicrous. It is the blind leading the blind.
This is a black hole, and we’ve crossed the event horizon. It’s an impending disaster. It’s gotten us what we’ve got and is steam rolling us down the track to what we don’t want for sure – even though many do not recognize how that might even look. They’re only numbed down further in a nebulous fear about a vague future, not wanting to face the reality.
But it can be turned around. That can happen by each and every one of us really considering the other person from his or her own perspective, by humbling ourselves enough to ask for input, “What is it I can do for you?” It’s the upgraded “Golden Rule 2.0”: “Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.” Scary, huh?
If each of us begins to implement this, it could be the beginning of the only kind of revolution that would change things forever – the only kind I’d want to participate in. It would let loose heaven on earth – in every one-on-one relationship, family, community, nation, and country on earth. Imagine all the people asking all the time, “What is it I can do for you?”! And this is the only thing that terrorizes is evil, “live” spelled backwards!
No arm twisting, no mandating. No ego-self agendas. Grass roots. Straight from the heart.
That’s the end of my unsolicited advice, something I try to avoid giving, the thing people may not be asking for. End of rant. Thanks for reading it, if you got this far.
I’m not preaching at anyone, and I hope it won’t be received that way, but it’s something that has come to my own awareness as a radical but viable and largely untested option, and I think it has the potential to change our world, beginning on an individual and grassroots scale. It would be so amazing, that no one would want to go back to the old M.O. of me, myself, and I.
Enough broadcasting about the problems! Answers are what I’m looking for. Axe laid to the root answers. And maybe just a little gambling – taking a chance on a radical “new but very old” idea.